Writing this is a bit embarrassing, it’s personal and vulnerable!

If you follow my stuff, you may know me as someone who can help people get unstuck with their beliefs and emotions through combining coaching and The Body Code.

Which, is true…and makes it even more embarrassing to share that for MONTHS I had been struggling with the belief “no one wants to hear what I have to say"

It’s what’s prevented me from sending out emails and writing blog posts.

I’ve reluctantly been posting on social media.

All because I was believing “no one wants to hear what I have to say!”

For some reason I didn’t bother to use The Body Code on myself to clear out that belief.

I was guilty of the Shoemaker’s Children Syndrome.

It’s a term that refers to an old proverb that tells of a shoemaker who was so busy making shoes for his customers that his wife and kids went shoeless.

The moral of the story is to be careful not neglect ourselves...

As I look out my window, I see nothing but white clouds and the right wing of the airplane I am currently aboard.

It never ceases to amaze me that we have the technology to walk into a tin can and fly across the sky….and now, surf the internet, text and watch movies!

I’m heading to Arizona for vacation ~ the 1st half of the trip I’m going to spend time with a friend I met at Rythmia last year ~she’s a total bad-ass....Last February, she climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro at 70!

The second half of the week I’ll be hanging out with some women that I know through Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work and going to a 1-day event of his.(if you haven’t read his book, “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”, I highly recommend it) 

My plan is to completely “turn-off” and not work at all….which is something I haven’t done on a vacation in YEARS!

I’ll usually still take some calls and still do energy work with clients…

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Are you one of the 10 million Americans struggling with SAD?

What’s SAD you ask?  Here’s the recipe for SAD...

5 pm Sunsets
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Erratic temperatures
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Lots of times indoors
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SAD (Seasonal Affect Disorder)

SAD is a recurrent type of depression associated with the change in seasons ~ generally, it starts in the fall and goes through the winter months.

For some people, it can be debilitating.

Some of the signs of SAD are:

• Difficulty sleeping
• Feeling less social than usual
• Difficulty taking initiative
• Overeating
• Feeling down or depressed most of the day, nearly every day
• Loss of interest in things you usually enjoy
• Struggling to focus
• Feeling constantly fatigued and lethargic
• Feeling hopeless about the future
• Having suicidal thoughts

I don’t know about you but SAD impacts me EVERY year.

It’s a big reason why I moved out of the North East to the South…but it is still a thing with the gray, rainy weather during the winter months here in Charlotte, NC.

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If you google “human’s number one fear” more than likely, you’ll find “public speaking” listed as that fear.

AND….when you peel back the layers, it’s not that people are afraid of public speaking, they are really afraid of being negatively evaluated…

which leads to a deeper fear of being rejected for not being good enough…

which ultimately leads to a deep fear of not belonging.

When we have the fear of not being good enough, therefore, not belonging we;

• Second guess ourselves
• Lack trust in & are paralyzed in our decision making
• Isolate ourselves from the connections we actually desire
• Feel empty
• Obsess over what we did or didn’t do
• Loop on the question “what will they think?"

I don’t know about you but when I was DEEP in this state, it was not an enjoyable life by any stretch of the imagination yet it seemed as if it was a black hole I couldn’t climb out of.

Eventually, I did...

My past 2 weeks have consisted of these highlights (there are some things I've left out...)

A weekend of a DEEP spiritual journal where I jumped back into life with a very little buffer period of rest/integrate (my own fault)

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Tues-Thurs = Traveling with a puppy who woke up at 4:45 am 2 mornings in a row instead of his normal me dragging him out of bed after 8 am (I don’t do well on a little bit of sleep)

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Thursday evening= Being excited to FINALLY getting to sleep only to be woken up at 2 am by a leaking ceiling (that maintenance said couldn’t be fixed till the morning)….so I was up all night

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Friday = Dealing with maintenance & the leaking ceiling & being so exhausted it took me forever to get to sleep that night (yes, I was doing breathwork....the nervous system was really amped up!)

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Saturday = Still in recover mode but starting to feel better

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Sunday = Woken up to the buildings Fire Alarm at 7 am, hustled to get anything I’d want if the...

Last week I wrote about fear, thinking that it would be a one-week topic to work on during the Energy-Clearing call.

I talked about:

• What fear is
• What causes it
• How it shows up in our lives
• How to grow beyond it

(if you want to check it out, click here)

It turns out that fear is HUGE in many of our lives.

I received requests from people that were more than I could work on in the hour so I decided to focus on it for a second week.

While I covered a lot of info in last week's blog post, I do want to add some thoughts on fear that I didn’t mention.

In his book, “Power vs. Force” (I highly recommend the book…it can be a bit heavy but it definitely gives you an empowering lens to view the world) David Hawkins shares about the scale of human consciousness and how emotions have an energetic calibration on a scale from 20-1000 (see picture below).

Each of these levels of consciousness correlates with certain emotions, perceptions/attitudes, world views, and...

What are you afraid of?

When I was growing up, I was afraid of seemingly everything.

I never wanted to try anything new.

I hated when my parents sent me off to camp (and then hated having to leave camp).

I sat in a corner of my 1st and only violin lesson because I was afraid.

And, like most, public speaking was definitely out of the question!

The world was just a scary place. 

Thankfully, I've worked through those childhood fears but I know that for many of us, fear still lingers when we don't want it to.

This week (blog post to come tomorrow) we’re going to look at:

* What fear is
* What causes it
* How it shows up in our lives
* How to grow beyond it

What is Fear

We all know what fear feels like….

* sweating
* trembling
* Shortness of breath
* Rapid heartbeat
* Butterflies in the stomach

But what is it exactly?

When we strip fear down, it is a response in the body that comes when it feels unsafe.

If you are walking in the woods and see a large black bear running...

As of this writing, we are 2 days from entering a new decade ~ and many people are entering it with the same goals/dreams/resolutions that they had a decade ago.

Whether it’s a desire to:

* Get in shape
* Earn more money
* Be more present with family/friends
* Work less, play more

It seems as though no many “how-to” articles they’ve read, they can’t seem to get there.

Last week I shared how the #1 reason people don’t achieve their goals is that they aren’t aligned with them (you can click here to check it out on the blog or Youtube)…

The NUMBER ONE reason people don’t reach their “goals” is that they don’t believe that they could be that person who can experience whatever it is that they desire.

Someone may say that they want XYZ but subconsciously they don’t believe that

* They are worthy of it
* They are deserving of it
* It is safe to experience it
* They are good enough to receive it

To experience a new...

It’s the time of year when people are reflecting on the previous year and thinking about what they’d like to accomplish in the following year.

Often usually boiling down to something to do with our body, money, relationships and time…our “goals” or resolutions are something like:

This year I will...

• Get in shape
• Earn more money
• Be more present with family/friends
• Work less, play more

So we set out to figure out HOW to do this. Most articles you read will say if you just...

• Set a goal
• Make a plan that’s SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, timeline)
• Schedule it
• Stick to the plan

then you will reach your goal.

But….that doesn’t always happen…and, if it does, there’s often something that feels missing once it’s achieved and people are left feeling disappointed.

For many, the list tends to be similar to the previous years and are scratching their head thinking “I don’t know why I...

“I want to die”

These were the exact words I thought in December of 2005.

I recently quit my first job as a therapist at a group home for adolescent girls.

My lease was up on the house I was renting and since I quit my job and didn’t know what I was going to do, I moved back in with my parents (God bless them for letting me move back in!).

I had ZERO ideas about what I wanted to do with my life.AND, even though I was diagnosed with pre-diabetes, I was eating every sugary thing in site ~ it was the holiday season after all, isn’t that what you are supposed to do???

I got to a point where I literally could not get out of bed ~ my body felt as if it had cement running slugging through it.

Each morning I woke up even more exhausted than I did when I went to bed.

To say that I felt pretty sh*tty would be an understatement.

Ok, I do know that this was a 1st world problem and others have had way sh*ttier experiences…And, this was my reality and wanting to die...