“Yea, but HOW do I change that belief?”
This was a question asked to me this week on a coaching call as my client and I were talking about a belief about money and love that she discovered ran DEEP in her psyche (and a question I hear every week)!
You know that kind of belief that you feel at the core of who you are and it seems like there’s nothing you can do to change it?
For many, it’s beliefs such as: “I don’t deserve to be wealthy” or “I’m not worthy of success.”
For me it used to be “even if I ran a trash collecting company, I can’t be successful” (seriously. I knew it was ridiculous but it felt so true in my body!)
And we wonder, “how the heck can I stop thinking/believing this?”
There are 2 components to this.
First is our conscious mind, which is 5-10% of who we are.
When we are thinking a thought that is disempowering us we can...
(I wrote this before I left but in my excitement, forgot to post beforehand!)
Do you have a “bucket-list”?
Years ago I started calling it my “live life to the fullest” list as “bucket list” seems kind of depressing to me.
I love the idea of creating fun, memorable adventures in life so “live life to the fullest” seemed to be more fitting, personally.
AND….I’m getting to cross something off that’s been on my list for years.
May 31-June 5 I am going to be swimming with wild dolphins in the Bahamas!!!
I’m going to a place called Wildquest that I’ve had on my list for YEARS to do but for whatever reason, never pulled the trigger until now….
Since I didn’t owe as much in taxes as I had saved I figured I would treat myself to this experience.
We’ll be out on a catamaran each day for about 7 hours looking for wild dolphins...
I hope this finds you healthy and happy!
I’m in Charlotte, NC and it’s getting a little crazy here--If you haven’t heard, there’s a gas shortage on the east coast and trying to find places with gas around here has been like a scavenger hunt apparently!
It’s safe to say that the lack of an abundance of gas currently is creating some havoc!
Funny what happens when we feel the opposite of abundance…
Most of us going into modes of:
preventing us from living the type of life we desire.
It happens with women and money ALL. THE. TIME.
When we feel like money and abundance is scarce, things get dicey (I’ve definitely been there myself!), which creates more chaos..which creates more scarcity….
And so the pattern goes!
In my last email I mentioned that much of my work now is going to be focused on helping women create more money and impact in...
Something big has shifted - my focus in my work.
Things had been shifting for a few months now but the big AHA! came about when I was talking with a client that we had just finished working through money blocks and she said:
“I’m feeling confident and stronger. The abundance is not just in money as I thought; I thought it had to be in money but it's in everything around me & it's been an incredible feeling”
The thing is, I was previously working with helping everyone with everything. My focus was once to help people with ANY struggle that came to me.
BUT...what I started to realize was that….
As life continues to shift and change and stress levels are at all time highs for most people I wanted to write this email to share something my clients are finding incredibly helpful in managing their stress.
When we are struggling in life, there is never just “one” thing that is the cause.
It is typically a variety of things but sometimes we don’t know where to start to find the answers.
A while back I read about the 5 Bodies framework (I can’t remember where, otherwise I’d totally give it credit) and have been sharing it with everyone.
This framework has been a game-changer in making it easy for my clients to create change for themselves (I'll share with you how my client Laurie used it to take back control of her life in a minute!)
The basic gist of it is that we have 5 different “bodies.”
We all know about our Physical body (this is the one we live in, the skin, bones, and everything...
It’s the time of year when people are reflecting on the previous year and thinking about what they’d like to accomplish in the following year.
Often usually boiling down to something to do with our body, money, relationships and time…our “goals” or resolutions are something like:
This year I will...
So we set out to figure out HOW to do this. Most articles you read will say if you just...
then you will reach your goal.
But….that doesn’t always happen…and, if it does, there’s often something that feels missing once it’s achieved and people are left feeling disappointed.
For many, the list tends to be similar to the previous years and are scratching their head thinking “I don’t know why I...
“I want to die”
These were the exact words I thought in December of 2005.
I recently quit my first job as a therapist at a group home for adolescent girls.
My lease was up on the house I was renting and since I quit my job and didn’t know what I was going to do, I moved back in with my parents (God bless them for letting me move back in!).
I had ZERO ideas about what I wanted to do with my life.AND, even though I was diagnosed with pre-diabetes, I was eating every sugary thing in site ~ it was the holiday season after all, isn’t that what you are supposed to do???
I got to a point where I literally could not get out of bed ~ my body felt as if it had cement running slugging through it.
Each morning I woke up even more exhausted than I did when I went to bed.
To say that I felt pretty sh*tty would be an understatement.
Ok, I do know that this was a 1st world problem and others have had way sh*ttier experiences…And, this was my reality and wanting to die...
“I have anxiety”
“I’m just an anxious person"
This time of year it’s not uncommon to hear some form of those words.
* Spending time with family
* Having enough money for the holidays
* Having enough time to do everything
* Being around so much junk food when you are attempting to be healthy...
* Holiday traveling
The list can go on and on….
So what is “Anxiety”?
Google says anxiety is your body’s natural response to stress.
Last week we talked about Stress and how google says it’s “Physical, mental or emotional strain or tension"
But that doesn’t answer what stress is.
Beyond money, time, jobs, stress is the belief that reality should be different than it currently is.
Anxiety and Stress are similar ~ the difference is that Anxiety is a perceived belief about something that hasn’t yet happened while stress is a belief about something in the past/current/future (PTSD would be the exception to...