If you google “human’s number one fear” more than likely, you’ll find “public speaking” listed as that fear.
AND….when you peel back the layers, it’s not that people are afraid of public speaking, they are really afraid of being negatively evaluated…
which leads to a deeper fear of being rejected for not being good enough…
which ultimately leads to a deep fear of not belonging.
When we have the fear of not being good enough, therefore, not belonging we;
I don’t know about you but when I was DEEP in this state, it was not an enjoyable life by any stretch of the imagination yet it seemed as if it was a black hole I couldn’t climb out of.
Eventually, I did...
It’s the time of year when people are reflecting on the previous year and thinking about what they’d like to accomplish in the following year.
Often usually boiling down to something to do with our body, money, relationships and time…our “goals” or resolutions are something like:
This year I will...
So we set out to figure out HOW to do this. Most articles you read will say if you just...
then you will reach your goal.
But….that doesn’t always happen…and, if it does, there’s often something that feels missing once it’s achieved and people are left feeling disappointed.
For many, the list tends to be similar to the previous years and are scratching their head thinking “I don’t know why I...
“I want to die”
These were the exact words I thought in December of 2005.
I recently quit my first job as a therapist at a group home for adolescent girls.
My lease was up on the house I was renting and since I quit my job and didn’t know what I was going to do, I moved back in with my parents (God bless them for letting me move back in!).
I had ZERO ideas about what I wanted to do with my life.AND, even though I was diagnosed with pre-diabetes, I was eating every sugary thing in site ~ it was the holiday season after all, isn’t that what you are supposed to do???
I got to a point where I literally could not get out of bed ~ my body felt as if it had cement running slugging through it.
Each morning I woke up even more exhausted than I did when I went to bed.
To say that I felt pretty sh*tty would be an understatement.
Ok, I do know that this was a 1st world problem and others have had way sh*ttier experiences…And, this was my reality and wanting to die...
“I have anxiety”
“I’m just an anxious person"
This time of year it’s not uncommon to hear some form of those words.
* Spending time with family
* Having enough money for the holidays
* Having enough time to do everything
* Being around so much junk food when you are attempting to be healthy...
* Holiday traveling
The list can go on and on….
So what is “Anxiety”?
Google says anxiety is your body’s natural response to stress.
Last week we talked about Stress and how google says it’s “Physical, mental or emotional strain or tension"
But that doesn’t answer what stress is.
Beyond money, time, jobs, stress is the belief that reality should be different than it currently is.
Anxiety and Stress are similar ~ the difference is that Anxiety is a perceived belief about something that hasn’t yet happened while stress is a belief about something in the past/current/future (PTSD would be the exception to...